Double standard

I have a problem with a double standard between infertiles and fertiles. I'm talking about feelings. Our feelings of sadness, anger, frustration and others are our feelings. It's a rollar coaster ride that is chock full of difficult decisions, disappointing outcomes, unknown outcomes and suprises. I can't keep my feelings to myself--I would burst. We use our family, friends and blogs to communicate to others how we feel. They are our support systems and sounding board.
I'm still peeved about my post being taken the wrong way (it will be a month since I've talked to said friend). My friend got to post her comment about how she felt but she has not communicated with me in any way. How is that fair? That we have to sit by and just bide our time with being quiet? They on the other hand can say what they want and that's okay? I get tired of censoring myself and walking on egg shells. Communique had an experience where she was open and honest with her friend and she has to date not heard from her friend. I do have many fertile friends that are empathetic to my situation. Could it be the way some people are raised? Perhaps.
I hope no one treats my friend the way she treated me. I can't imagine doing that to anyone. It's just not nice.